RIE Diary
Saturday, 20 February 2016
New crawlers playgroup
Thursday, 23 January 2014
Exploring Relationships with Infants and Toddlers
In my observations of infants and toddlers, I see children follow a fairly predictable path toward early peer interactions:
· First the child feels safe in the environment. Some take longer than others. Once they understand their caregiver is close by if they need them, they feel confident to explore their surroundings. At this time it is important the adults send the message that the child can explore in their own way. The child may take a longer time to trust their own capabilities if they are used to adult led play.
· The child explores the objects and physical structures in the environment.
· The child begins to notice the other children in the space. They often spend time observing others them from a “safe” distance.
· The child begins to explore the other children. This happens in a number of ways, such as: approaching others, taking objects the other child plays with, touching them, making eye contact, smiling and copying them.
The response of the caregivers at this time will influence their confidence in social situations. I demonstrate ways of supporting initial interactions and after some time, I begin to see the fruits of my labour! Children begin to problem solve when objects are taken from them and children begin to spontaneously share with other children.
The typical approach to a child taking an object is to tell the child, “No, that’s not yours, share!” Then the child will be required to give the object back. Due to the stage of a child’s development, their concept of ownership is not developed enough to understand this adult enforced idea. Their ‘take-away’ from this situation is, “Taking objects off others is ok.”, as that is essentially what the adult has demonstrated.
Instead, when I see children struggle, I come close slowly to ensure they are safe, and, beginning with the least intervention possible, I wait. I may offer my support by saying what I see, “You have the toy now, you don’t have it. “ I offer a voice by labelling their feelings, “You are upset, you want the toy.” I have to say, every situation is different, and sometimes I intervene more if I feel it is necessary. But with the RIE approach, I let children be the problem solvers, allowing them to see their own capabilities, instead of relying on adults to fix things for them.
Sunday, 27 October 2013
Play objects continued
Head to Ikea, Japan Home (HK), or any supermarket or store like Thingz (Western Australia).
When looking for play objects for your infant, remember to check out RIE literature such as Dear Parent, by Magda Gerber. She shared a lot there. But as far as providing interesting objects for my children, of mixed ages, both in the classroom and at home, here they are.
Think safety first. Not having pieces, not being able to swallow, not too heavy and not sharp and not toxic!
Think texture!
- Stainless steel bowls, not to large, different sizes. The reflective light is fascinating to my children. The sound it makes when tapped on hard surface is a great surprise.
- Silicon in different shapes. Think oven mit, place mats. My 6 month old holds the flat square place mat and uses his hand to open and close it. He can watch it for ages. He also seems to enjoy the challenge of picking this flat object up from his mat.
- Plastic bowls, children are fascinated with objects and the idea of in and out. They will put their hand in and out of a bowl, toying with this concept of object permanence (my hand cant be seen but hey, magic, it is still there!)
- O-balls. Toys R us do not offer a lot in Hong Kong other than a nice selection of balls ;-) O-balls are light and easy to pick up. Great for chewing.
- One of the favourites for children of all ages has been a few clear plastic toothpick holders. The smooth round cover seems to fit nicely with a little click onto the base. Place a few safe things inside for interest.
- Plastic soap dishes. My 6 month old seems to get a real buz out of exploring the properties of objects, and isn't bored with plastic, as long as they have different shapes. A round soap dish with a few bumpy bits, hours of fun in his mouth, dropped to make noise, and for the big kids, to place things inside and carry around.
- Inflatable ring, or beach ball. These should not be blown up to capacity. Just enough left out so that even a 6 month old can grasp it. It provides a BIG object yet light enough to manipulate. When they are older, I went through so many. The bigger kids would roll on the balls and get a huge buzz out of that.
- Short lengths of plastic chain, available here in HK at most hardware stores, provide a great play object. It can be poured, and is interesting like a collection of small things, yet safe for small babies.
- I had a million old "Lamaze" baby toys. I remembered my older children never played with them. I used to look at them and think, why wont they play with this every day, they are so pretty and interesting (to me)? I believe that they are too complicated, and from my observations of children with simple play objects, they need objects which they can "make sense of" (Gerber). Simplicity gives them the most enjoyment. Anyhow, these Lamaze toys did have something for me, I chopped off all of the small plastic rings, so now my babies have a lovely colourful collection of shiny plastic rings, easy to manipulate and much more attractive now they are not attached to those crazy and complicated Lamaze toys.
Saturday, 26 October 2013
You're not my friend!
- · Your feelings are not real,
- · I don’t trust you,
- · Suppress true feelings,
- · You need to rely on adults to fix your problems,
- · You have to do things you don’t like, even if you don’t know why, or don’t feel empathy.
Thursday, 1 August 2013
Play Objects
Watch the video here
I continued trying to figure out what was wrong with my environment, but still the thought of changing my resources didn't occur to me.
Sunday, 21 July 2013
Crying is a release
"Happy now!" |